I realised this week that I have actually been trying to fool myself with different excuses about my behaviour.
- The time that I walked to the shops to get a hole punch to “organise my paperwork” was not in fact to get a hole punch although I need one but was really to get an ice cream.
- That sitting in the garden reading a magazine is not really classified as “research” nor classed as me getting my required daily intake of vitamin D but purely just being lazy in the sun.
- That getting my hair cut was just for me and not just for a business photo shoot.
Excuses are invented reasons we create to defend our behavior, to neglect taking a particular kind of action, or simply as a means of negating responsibility.
They are rationalizations we make to ourselves about people, events and circumstances therefore placing blame of an internal problem on an external condition e.g.; Hiding concerns about my new business launch with the fact the sun is shining instead of getting my head down and just doing the work.
There are many reasons why people make excuses. However, when it comes down to it, we only make excuses for the following reasons:
- Lack of Confidence or Resources
- Fear of Failure or Making Mistakes
- Concern about Change and the Uncertainty that change may bring
- Fear of Success and perhaps if we are Successful a fear of the Responsibility that comes with it
Thinking back on this week I am reminded on what my Finding your Passion Guru says
“Fear is the most common obstacle to finding your element” Ken Robinson.
So to it seems that in order to eliminate the excuses from our lives we must first look at eliminating all traces of fear. For a start we first need to admit that we are making excuses in the first place. Check.
- Is this a genuine reason for CONCERN or is it simply an excuse?
- If this is an excuse, what is it I am lacking in order to put it right?
- What do I need to help me move forward?
- What steps do I need to take me closer to my goal?
For me, there are 2 issues I have narrowed it down to.
Firstly I am happy with my product selection for my on-line retail business, I know my numbers, I can make this work. My concern I believe is marketing. It is such a big beast, how do I ensure that I get it right without spending a small fortune in the wrong places? Either way I need to stop procrastinating and spend the day on a marketing strategy.
Secondly, I also need to bite that bullet and contact publishers. One article being published does not make you a writer. Practice, practice, practice and then when you think you know it…Practice some more.
I am sure we all have created excuses or neglected to take responsibility for some of the events and circumstances of our life – after all we are only human.
The most important thing is to realise our actions, take stock of the situation and get ourselves back on track.
All the while we must remember that to overcome our excuses/ fear we need patience, optimism, confidence and persistence. Or if we must make excuses, then at least keep them private. Nobody likes people who can’t take responsibility for their decisions and actions.
So I ask you all to question yourself “Who are you trying to kid?” Then fix it, after all…
“He that is good for making excuses is seldom good for anything else.” – Benjamin Franklin